In my humble opinion, it would be in your best interests to seek family therapy and get to the root of the problems that maybe understated in your relationship. Bring up the second cell phone and other problems that maybe festering between you and your wife. Therapy takes time and patience. Go with the flow and see if the results of weekly therapy sessions yields positive results. You must try something, even if you and or your wife are resistant to the idea. Nothing is gained from inaction.

Argile Stox