Maybe your friends just don't like him that's why they're telling you that he's gay! Well, as far as I know, there are straight guys who act like that. Maybe he's not just scared to show his feminine side?

But anyway, you said you're Asian, are you Pinoy? If you are, that explains why you're having second thoughts of leaving your hubby. I'm telling you now, if you're no longer happy with the relationship, just let it go. I know that you care so much for your kid but do you want to reach that point where your kid would witness for herself/himself how things have gone in your family? Let it go and be happy. Besides, even without living together, you could still be good parents.

But before you jump in to any relationship, make sure to get a divorce.