gamblinjohn, You're facing a real dilemma here.

If I were you, I would re-check my critera. Are you sure that you're in love ? More importantly - are you sure that SHE loves you ?

There's alot that you need to figure out before taking the decision. Here's a resource that I think you'll find helpful: The Psychology of Falling in Love. The link is in my signature. Hope that helps

Good luck buddy